M E M O R Y

Some years ago I had this patient who had seizure, truth be told you could hardly get him to converse but they say where conversations do not work, try Music and voila music was set to do the miracle.

I found out from his caregiver that he loved drumming so we started with allowing him drum, he drummed on anything and it just made him hyper active the more but trust me the sight was so beautiful to behold, he was fourteen years so talk about ‘teenage shyness’, he didn’t have it. He was just a free-spirited teen.

After series of drumming everywhere and admiration of my guitar for a long time we now needed to work. Talking about admiration of the guitar, he pulled it very well and I was so careful so he’d not distune it because at that time I wasn’t perfect at tuning a guitar, I knew it’d take me time to get it tuned. I helped myself by pleading with him in a friendly manner to take it easy. Lol

He calmed down a bit and we were getting started on the next phase of the Music Therapy Administration, this time I was going to make simple melodies on the guitar and he was going to replicate it. It was my first time trying such so I sang a simple melodious song and in 2 minutes this hyper active teen had picked everything and was eager to replicate, I had this look of what??๐Ÿ˜ฒ
This kid didn’t disappoint at all,he replicated it so well and this time around he took the guitar to try it, I allowed him and it was beautiful even though he didn’t know how to play but it was beautiful in my ears.

This experience taught me two things people who are ill are not looking for anything complex, they already feel the sickness is complicated and they want something simple to brighten them up, this is majorly why I do very simple songs.

It also taught me that Music helps with easy retention no matter the kind of ailment or personality a person has, when it comes to music they’ll remember more than they remember words.

I am certain you learnt something from this story, do leave a comment below.

I always love reading from you.๐Ÿ’š

O V E R C O M E R

Jesusson shared with us his journey into therapeutic music, how he played the guitar at an annual event tagged ‘PATIENTS’ DAY’, seeing patients in the hospital regain their confidence and joy just by doing music opened his heart to the aspect of Music and he’s been on it.

He’s one of the few people I know who sensed a call into music and told themselves since this is what I’ve been called to do, let me just study it and boom! He went in for music.
He shares Music on his YouTube channel Friday for Originals every week, you can check his music.

The highlight of my conversation with Jesusson Awotu-Ukiri was when he sang the song titled ‘ We shall Overcome’. I have always known this song since I was in secondary school and there’s this nostalgic feeling I had listening to him sing again.
That’s not even his story, he used to be a victim of depression, he was broke and so many other things were happening to him. Jesusson took to music in that season of His life as a companion, I find that music keeps us company when life’s journey feels too lonely a path to tread on, music is a place to find solace but not just any kind of music will do that. Jesusson and I shared how important it is to discern songs that are for us, some songs make us sink back into depression while certain songs awaken us and pull us from the pit of darkness we find ourself in.

As I always know, reading this story is not as good as listening to it from the one who owns the story, so click the link below to listen ๐Ÿ‘‡
https://anchor.fm/mercy-kay/episodes/O-V-E-R-C-O-M-E-R-ekbt8u

Thank You and it’s always a joy reading from you.๐Ÿ’š

G R I E V I N G W I T H H O P E

Olayemi Afees Akanni has a strong Muslim background so the possibility of being immersed in music was quite slim, his background in music is one from learning lots of songs by listening to the radio. The radio and his school assembly ground was a major influence in his music life, then when he eventually went to church.

He shared how he felt cheated being the last born of the family for over 10 years until he was displaced๐Ÿ˜…, he always felt unloved because he wasn’t pampered. He started having thoughts of death in such moments, he’d somehow begin to hum a tune when those thoughts surged in, it helped him bounce back from such state.
He didn’t understand how music was helping him walk through dark questioning seasons until he got into the Tertiary institution.

In His words ‘I used to fear calls from home’, things weren’t okay at home and he tried to avoid receiving calls except if it came from his Father and this was because he knew that his Father had the ability to manage conveying a critical situation in speech.

His sister and Father were challenged health wise, His father had issues at work and his sister’s marriage was close to falling apart. Everything came falling like a pack of cards, he had to skip tests, was thinking of committing suicide at the thought of everything happening but thankfully he didn’t.

It was first his elder sister who died on New Year’s day and it felt like everything came crashing, he was numb and just couldn’t understand what was happening. You’d think that was just it, his father was ill and his leg was about to be amputated, his father didn’t want it, he backed his Father who once carried him, such painful sight to behold and that was the last he saw him. He died!
Olayemi had to walk through the season of losing two loved ones, he grieved with hope with music that reassured him and made him see the bigger picture.

He also shared with us how Songwriting helped him through tough seasons.

I think his story is one worth listening especially if you are walking through grief. Kindly click the link below to listen ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿ‘‡

https://anchor.fm/mercy-kay/episodes/G-R-I-E-V-I-N-G-W-I-T-H-H-O-P-E-ek17qf

I always look forward to reading from you.
Thank You ๐Ÿ’š

S A L V A G E D

Owonikoko Imisioluwa Olalekan my friend and dear colleague, we studied Music at Obafemi Awolowo University Ile Ife same year and if there’s anything I’ve always known him for it’s his ability to explore what you call abnormal and use this gift of music he has to influence culture.


I will say I learnt a lot from my conversation with him and it was so real, no airs, just two persons laughing and sharing deep stuffs on the power that music has to heal.


My friend, Koko runs an organization called Music for Development that is committed to driving positive social change through music, I have known his passion to communicate healing through music to the girl child for four years and it’s been such a joy to behold his becoming amidst the many ups and down that life throws at us.

Koko shared his music miracle with me and I found it humbling because I never knew he had been through something that painful that almost became an addiction.
When he was in secondary school, he lived with a family and what he was subjected to daily caused a damage to his tender heart, we know how life throws us stuffs but it’s always different with a child or teenager, it could leave them broken if not salvaged. Everytime he’d inflict injury on himself using a razor blade, because of the emotional trauma he was subjected to growing up, he’d weep uncontrollably.


One of those injury-infliction days, he listened to the song He saved me by R Kelly and it felt like someone could finally understand what he was going through. It felt like R Kelly was counseling him through his music and so he made it a habit to constantly listen to his song, this helped him to overcome the habit of inflicting injury on himself with razor blade. The flip part is that he was able to bring healing to others.

He also shared something that is worthy of note, not every music will heal you, some will make you sink into depression and it’s left to you to choose wisely.

I believe Koko’s life story in general is very inspiring especially for those who have struggled with acceptance, he’s someone you should listen to. Here’s the link to the akara song he shared with us on the podcast, it is worth listening to ๐Ÿ‘‡
https://fanlink.to/the-akara-song

Do share with me one or two things you learnt from this blog. Full story on my podcast, kindly click  here to listen ๐Ÿ‘‡https://anchor.fm/mercy-kay/episodes/S-A-L-V-A-G-E-D-ejmhkl

I look forward to reading from you๐Ÿ’œ
Gracias๐Ÿ’œ

D O N O T S T O P

I had the honour of having a beautiful podcast session with my dear friend Sarah Olayinka, we’ve known each other for 15 years or more and I think she’s so skilled in music that you can hardly know except you know her.
I literally pulled her out of her safe space to do this interview. One of the things that you’d constantly read here are stories of persons who have experienced the miracle of Music so that as you walk through life’s confrontation you can make it a habit to sing or listen to a song that brings you healing in every area you need one.

Sarah shared about four different personal stories where she experienced healing through, two of which were major Music Miracle.


She had just resumed the Predegree programme at the Obafemi Awolowo University Centre for Distant Learning and was always falling ill everyday in predegree and had this growth on her waist, it was protruding and it was painful so she’d cry often because of the pain. Prior to that time, getting the tuition fees was a challenge and her parents went through a lot just to get the fees. For some persons, the tuition fee was just a walk in park but for her it wasn’t.

To make matters worse, everytime she was at the hospital, the report she always got was that there was nothing wrong, this sort of made her travel home every weekend, bear in mind that there was really no money like that at home.
She at some point thought it was Appendicitis but was told it wasn’t so, you know it’s easy when you know what you are trying to get rid of but when you do not know, it can be very frustrating. This was the case with Sarah as the pain persevered, it made her travel from Ile-ife to Lagos every weekend.

One week after she attended her church’s Bible Study, she laid on her bed close to tears and in pain again singing;
The Great Physician now is near,
The sympathizing Jesus;
He speaks the drooping heart to cheer,
Oh, hear the voice of Jesus.

That song resonated deeply within her and she sang it everytime like everytime and slowly the miracle was happening in her body. Not long after the nine month programme, she was miraculously healed and till date she is doing very well.

This is just one out of a number of experiences she shared with me. I’d implore you to listen to the podcast, kindly click the link below๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿ‘‡https://anchor.fm/mercy-kay/episodes/D-O-N-O-T-S-T-O-P-ejb2oh


If there’s anything Sarah’s many experiences taught me it is the power of consistently singing or listening to a song to birth the miracle you desire in your life. Every of the time she was ill, she took time to sing it over herself or listen to the song wash her pain away. It is the power of not stopping till you see your miracle.

I’d implore you to make this a habit, thankfully I’ll be putting up a song that’d help you through your day and beyond.
Do listen and as always Its always a joy reading from you.๐Ÿ’œ

F E A R

Three years ago I had a patient, in fact the first patient I administered music to as an undergraduate which I think was wishy-washy because I had just little knowledge on the guitar. This patient was a beautiful woman from the south western part of Nigeria who was already a grandmother at the time I think, she had Diabetes and other ailments I canโ€™t remember now.
I somehow took special interest in this woman because she was friendly and welcoming despite the pain. At first sight you would tag her happy woman with less worries, at the time her leg was to be amputated due to the ailment.
Thatโ€™s not even where Iโ€™m headed to, lots of persons who look happy, post stuffs on their status and other social media handles encouraging others are 80% of the time dealing with one fear or the other yet putting up a faรงade.

Back to my story, I visited this hospital weekly, encouraging her with music that gave her hope and helped her faith in God because she was Christian and somehow I saw her loosen up, she began to confide in me with tears in her eyes. I mean this is a woman you would tag strong because she seemed so welcoming but from conversations with her I realized it isnโ€™t what it is. She had lots of fears especially the fear of her leg being amputated; the money that had been spent and would still be spent was also a major fear. All these happened in an atmosphere of music, as we sang short spontaneous songs together, she would loosen up and tell me very personal things that I didn’t feel worthy to be privy to but I noticed one thing, it freed her from all her fears as she spoke while I sang or after I sang whilst communing with her creator, she realized she was better, hopeful and guess what in a couple of weeks she was well and about to be discharged. Greater news was that her leg wasnโ€™t amputated, call it a miracle!
Fear kills faster than the ailment or issue a person might be experiencing.
It is said from research that music has the ability to alleviate pain, anxiety and free anyone from fears. Call it a miracle again!

Fear weakens the immune system. When a person is happy it makes their immune system strengthened to function better.
If fear weakens the immune system faster than the ailment or issues, that means we probably should not be hosting a pity party around it.
I believe that one of the major things that has killed so many persons who were diagnosed with Coronavirus is the fear that theyโ€™ve been told that it kills or probably they have read that its a deadly virus, it simply means If we get fear out of the way we would have more recoveries.

I believe that Fear can be cured with music.
When a person isnโ€™t fearful, his spirit can still sustain his infirmity till he jerks back to life and wellness.

Have you ever been fearful?
Did Music help you?
Kindly share with me how music was of help to you.

I miss reading from You ๐Ÿ’•

Link to my podcast here; https://anchor.fm/mercy-kay/episodes/F-E-A-R-eivfp3

S H E W R O T E

One experience that stood out for me in a mental health hospital was that of an autistic child who I would love to give the fictional name, Amina. Amina was a child of 10 years who had lived with autism since she was a year old. Week-in, week-out, she came with her mum to the Hospital to see the doctor, get medications , attend educational therapy and what have you.

So this day, she came in sobbing and I had so much empathy on her that I would have shed a tear. Her mum said to me, โ€œShe likes covering her face whenever she steps into a room filled with people but I discouraged her from doing this which led to an outburst of tearsโ€. This scenario is common with children with this disorder because of their poor social skills.

Iโ€™m sure you might be curious as to what happened next, how I was able to manage an autistic child who was sobbing, knowing the struggles of children who live with this ailmentโ€ฆ

Research on music therapy shows that listening to music engages sub-cortical and cortical areas of the brain. Music has been shown to stimulate the brainsโ€™ primary engine of human capacity, exercises attention, evokes emotional response and stimulates the central nervous system. It also appears to activate the human mirror-neuron system, supporting the coupling between perceptual events (visual or auditory) and motor actions (leg, hand, or vocal or articulatory actions).

At one time, theories of human brain development argued that there was little or no growth of brain cells after age 30 but recent studies of music and the brain have shown this view to be erroneous. The brain is a plastic organ and music has the power to shape the brainโ€™s development into later life. The implication of these findings is huge. Providing opportunities for people to experience music in many settings can have a profound impact on their healthy development.

Music has long been recognized as a powerful force in rehabilitative treatment, used clinically to address impairments in motor function, language, cognition, sensory processing, and emotional disturbances that can result from brain injury. It has been used successfully to induce cognitive repair in patients with stroke, Parkinsonโ€™s disease, cerebral palsy, or traumatic brain injury. Indeed, music has the potential to โ€œfixโ€ the brain, by providing an alternative entry point into a โ€œbrokenโ€ brain system to remediate impaired neural processes or neural connections.

Back to my story, I went on to administer music therapy to this young girl. I switched on the music on my phone and she began loosening up, then I picked up my guitar and started singing. Before I could say jack, her eyes were dried and she reached for a pen and began writing. For autistic children, writing is usually a challenge so you can imagine how much my heart leaped with joy when she began writing herself.

You can imagine that her mum tried using non-musical tones to communicate what she wanted her to do and it turned sour but at the sound of music she not only did what she wanted her to do but she did more by writing.

Amina returned home happy and I returned curious about this aspect of Therapy and eager to raise an awareness of itโ€™s potency.

This is #TheDiaryofAnAspiringMusicTherapist, Episode 10

In view of what has been happening in recent weeks across the nations of the earth and the instruction to stay indoors to avoid the spread of the coronavirus, #TheDiaryofAnAspiringMusicTherapist will be on hold. We strongly believe this will end soon.

Please remain obedient to every rule given by our individual government authorities.

I look forward to reading from you and catch you soon!

C O N C E N T R A T I O N

I was at the hospital last week and it was closed down because the management thought to fumigate the hospital.
Every disappointment is truly a blessing, I have been wanting to share with you one of my experiences in the hospital where I had a patient who almost dislocated my arm.

I have this strong love for autistic children. I remember feeling the warmth of the embrace of a particular autistic child in my church, I must tell you I loved her immediately. There was this aura of peace she carried.

Well that’s not even the gist, I had a session with an autistic child in the hospital and honestly I was lost for songs or activities.
He was one child that had a very strong grip, you couldn’t just beat him to getting his body calm, he’d struggle with you.

If you know children living with autism, you’ll know that this comes with aggression that is common with the mental disability.
He also had difficulty in concentrating, so I could hardly get him to focus because it felt like something else needed his attention.

I figured out that I was not going to get his attention easily so I started by beating a rhythm because I was told he loved drumming, I did this repeatedly and honestly you will think he wasn’t listening or paying attention until he played the exact rhythm back to me without me asking and that was the bonding point for us.
He did the rhythm repeatedly and we transited into singing.

I did a song in his name letting him know that He is a gift from God and it was beautiful, he slowly calmed down and gave me his full attention. His mum was with him and she was so impressed, the song sent a message to her thatsaid regardless of the health challenge of her son, it doesn’t change the truth that he is a gift from God to the family and the world.

One thing I learnt from this session is this; producing a simple rhythm and hoping for him to reproduce it helped him concentrate. If this is continuous and consistent, he would be able to concentrate always and learn concentration in other aspects. Asides from the administration of Music Therapy helping patients calm down, it helps focus and concentration.

I am committed to doing this anytime and any day because the transformation I see always is priceless.

This is theย #DiaryofAnAspiringMusicTherapist, Episode 9

You mean a lot to me and I love reading from you!

O N E – S I D E D

Heaviness is what I’d have loved to title this ‘cos I could literally touch this in the hearts of caregivers this past week.
From the mothers whose kids had difficulty in breathing and were battling with issues at home to the mother who looked clueless not knowing whether to cry or just do something else to the mother who could still manage the occurrence to the Father who was pissed off with his wife to the parents who did not know where the money for the next medication will come from but experienced a miracle right there in my presence.

You are probably wondering how I knew all of these case scenarios? Well let’s just say I administered music for a longer time this very day so I could see deeper, I could see unhappy and happy homes, confused and hopeful people but let’s just say the negatives were more.
They were caged with a lot of worries that had kept them mute, I knew they needed to release whether by speaking or sighing or nodding to the truth that all was going to be well.

Under my breath I asked God to heal hearts, homes and their children because I could barely bring them to a point of singing talk less of talking, everyone’s head was bent deep in their problems.
The only thing I knew to do was to administer music without expecting any response, I serenaded the atmosphere with music for a long time.
I sang these words;
I no go fear
I no go worry
This too will pass and
It won’t be long.

While I sang I saw some nod, I saw others rest their heads to sleep over everything bothering them, I saw babies sleep soundly and a baby grin widely at meโค
Right in my presence, a good Samaritan walked in and gifted two out of the mothers with money, these mothers were having a hard time containing the fact that their kids were ill but somehow this kindness shown by the Good Samaritan made them hopeful.
What a miracle! I thought to myself

I learnt a vital lesson from this session is that sometimes the only way to release in the atmosphere of music might be through a smile, nod, sigh and rest. Sometimes it’s okay not to have them voice out their concerns but to allow it die a deep death within them such that it never resurrects again.

This is the #DiaryofAnAspiringMusicTherapist, Episode 8

You mean a lot to me and I love reading from you!

M U S I C A L D E C L A R A T I O N

You know when they say your words are weapon and you can either use it to your favour or use it to the detriment of yourself.
I was yet again in the company of parents who we normally care givers at the Emergency Paediatric Ward of the hospital.
They were a mix of tribe, largely Igbo and few northerners. I wasn’t nervous per say doing this with them even though I didn’t envision it while leaving for the hospital.
I think one of the things this journey is teaching me is to expect the unexpected and be prepared to deliver value at anytime.

I sat in the middle of the ward, strumming my guitar so the lyrics could pour forth, gradually the lyrics were on my lips and I had their attention.
If you’ve been following me, you’d know that I love short spontaneous music and I use it a lot in the hospital because I know it’s easy to remember few lines than lengthy lines and since one of my target is memory, having them remember the music when they hit despair then I know doing spontaneous music will work.

So the first song I did was on Peace and Health because lately I’ve been so endeared to the importance of always being at peace, I decided to gift them with a spontaneous music on Peace. These were the lyrics;
Peace to your body
Peace to your soul
Peace to your mind
.

It initially took a while for them to learn this because they didn’t feel good enough to sing so I encouraged them by singing one line then patiently wait for them to sing the next. They were doing so well and at each point they did, I made statements like Fantastic! Awesome! Just so they’d be encouraged. I made sure they declared these lyrics over their kids.

They finally perfected this and then I thought to do another spontaneous that had the fusion of Nigerian Pidgin, Igbo and Hausa language so I asked for the meaning of peace in both languages and I got them.
Here is the Lyrics;
You no go beg!
You no go borrow
Zaman Lafia, Udo!

This was really the most interesting for them because they felt like someone could do a song in their language, there was this sense of belonging.
I made them declare this over themselves and family, making them realize that there’s life in the words they speak and situations should not determine what they speak, little did I know that there was a mother among them who had been declaring very negative words. One of the mothers pointed to her saying ‘You see what we were saying! Just try not to speak negative when things go bad’.

We sang these words again deliberately and the joy! So pure. I feel this moment with these parents changed me more than it changed them because I have become so conscious of what proceeds from my mouth.


I’m thankful that I do this, I leave wards feeling very fulfilled each week and the fact that I bring light, hope, joy, peace to lives humbles me.
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This is #TheDiaryofAnAspiringMusicTherapist Episode 7

I’m sure you know by now that reading from you gives me much joy and I always look forward to it!